Love and Respect


Great Marriage conference this weekend based on the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs.  I would highly recommend it no matter where your marriage may be on a scale of 1-10.

I have the book and the book has some great concepts but if you can attend the conference it all comes to life in a powerful way that needs to be experienced. To give you an idea people from 24 states came to Charlotte to be a part of the conference.

The overall concept is that men are commanded to love and women are commanded to respect in the bible. The secular culture, and even the church, have in many cases missed the boat on the concept.

In very basic terms Ephesians 5:33 says  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. This is not to say husbands don’t need love and wives don’t need respect but overall Ephesians has it right and they go into the concept to explain how when this does not happen the “Crazy Cycle” begins and as statistics show many times leads to divorce as things get progressively worse.

Dr. Emmerson and his wife both taught part of the conference which was great to get both perspectives of husband and wife. Another concept to help get these points across was to not just refer to husband and wife but refer to our sons and daughters. Why? They explained that if there is tension in a marriage people often don’t internalize the concepts as well because they are in a mindset of thinking the other person needs to change or “I hope they are listening to this part.” To combat that they will refer to sons and daughters many times because it lets our guard down to understand the concept because we want what is best for our kids. Obviously not everyone has kids but I still think it is an effective concept.

The final hour or so really nailed the concept of focusing on our relationship with Christ first and not being focused on our spouse and how they need to change. It was powerful.

Again, overall I feel it was worth it and would recommend it, even if you are single, due to the concepts that are taught and how they can help you prepare for a future spouse.


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